I thought this article by author Rosie Garland on her route to publication: http://booksbywomen.org/rosie-garland/ was brilliant. This is how it is. Publishing likes to concentrate on success, not struggle, and to writers seeking publication. that can make it seem as if everyone is getting there faster than you are. Stories like Rosie’s are more the rule than the exception, and I wish every writer knew it. Not to put them off, but so they know that they’ll get there eventually.